Why Do We Always Hurt The Ones We Love?

I seldom post entries such as this but someone urged me to create one . (If you are reading this, you-know-who-you-are, I could just imagine you "LOLing" at this). So here's my take on the question she threw at me.

All of us has our own share of heartaches with our love life or even life in general. I honestly can’t  understand why lovers tend to hurt each other. It’s so simple to read, define and understand the word LOVERS but in some instances,  the couple involved fails to act the way it should be.
 

Yes your question is as good as mine. Why do we do this to the person dear to us?  To answer this (at least in my case, I can’t speak for others) is the ever lame “I-didn’t-mean-to-do-it reply. Lovers are supposed to nurture and keep the fire burning always in a relationship. Lovers are meant to take care of each other's feelings. I’m not speaking of  the no-quarrel-and-no-jealousy type of  relationship here. Perfect relationship did not exist and will never be but harmonious one does. But I also admit that in a relationship, a little amount of jealousy is ok to add spice to the relationship.

To say that hurting someone you love is beyond control, this I strongly disagree. I believe that this is a matter of choice and absolutely controllable. This applies a lot to our lover - to the person we are intimately committed with, can’t live without and share crazy things with. It’s always been my question why it’s so easy to hurt the person dear to us. Or I may say , it’s too easy  for that person who vowed to love us  to hurt our feelings and made us miserable. They said it's an  "unintentional hurt" but whatever you call it - it is still arousing heartaches.

Sad to say, I don’t think the answer will make me feel good. They tend to hurt us because they know that no matter what, we will just take it and we will forgive them after all the heart aches. Because we are their closest, their actions can hurt us the most for it’s a fact that it’s much harder to hurt someone who doesn’t give a damn what you think, do or say. We are taken for granted because they know that no matter what, we can withstand the hurt and still stay. Love can make the world go round and for some reasons our hearts break too. Sad but true. Loving others more than ourselves give them the chance to control over you and the worst thing is we allowed it.
 

Please don’t get me wrong, I must say that in every relationship it’s the girl who got hurt most of the time not the other way around (though I may say that this does not apply to everyone). Being in the situation sometimes made me think if it’s healthy to always “give in” with the hurt and let ourselves embrace the sad fact, and hope that everything will then fall into it’s proper place. Oh life, you are so complicated!!!!!

PS. Both images are grabbed from Google.